This morning, October 9, 2023, marks the third anniversary of the 2 AM home invasion and arson that our family experienced. I am taking a moment during this long holiday weekend to reflect in an introspective manner on all that has transpired and how God has transformed my mindset and life trajectory in just a few short years. Life has changed, and with it, my entire perspective.

In the time since the house fire, we have endured the challenge of a global pandemic, the unexpected loss of loved ones—including Grandpa, my mom, Aunt, and our dear friend—as well as my brother’s near-fatal car accident and subsequent journey to recovery. Amidst these trials, we have also been blessed to celebrate joyful moments. We celebrated the union of my daughter and sons-in-law’s marriage, and I had the privilege of standing as a maid of honor at a friend’s wedding.

Prior to the grand upheaval, I had a 5-year plan and goals to achieve it. But halfway through, I was burned out and ready to quit everything, including work, church, and even my marriage. We were pushing ourselves too hard, and it seemed like God intervened to save us from our unsustainable pace. Looking back, I realize that I was trying to do it all on my own, following worldly ways. Despite still attending church, reading devotionals, listening to Christian music, and praying, I had to reach my breaking point to truly understand the fullness of what God offers. My 5-year vision was completely different from what actually happened. As I was focusing on acquiring degrees, certifications, building a business with my husband, and accumulating worldly possessions, God had different plans. This experience serves as a humbling reminder of Proverbs 16:9, “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps,” and Proverbs 19:21, “Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.”

As I reflect on this journey, it feels like we have come full circle. Just recently, I received news that I am going to be a grandmother, bringing new hope and a fresh chapter into our lives. If I had known that my five-year plan would involve giving up my MBA degree, finance, and human resources certifications in exchange for the roles of a homemaker, homeschooler, homesteader, and Christian blogger – all without charge, along with a change in churches and a deeper focus on Sola Scriptura – I would have thought it to be a radical choice. And to top it all off, the title of Grandmother – it’s truly awe-inspiring. God’s ways are undoubtedly better than our own.

My intention with this article is to inspire others, particularly young women. You don’t have to conform to society’s expectations. The typical narrative suggests that you should pursue higher education, build a successful career, assert your independence, and then, if desired, get married and have children. You have the freedom to make choices regarding your own body, as this is a fundamental aspect of modern female empowerment. However, as you age and experience the loss of loved ones, you may find that material possessions, achievements, and accolades leave you feeling unfulfilled. Eventually, you will come to realize that it is not worldly accomplishments that truly matter. What truly matters is living a life dedicated to God and serving others. The ultimate reward I now long to hear is the words “Well done, good and faithful servant” (Matthew 25:23).